This is a response to Vol 14 Paul 3 ("Hello Yourself")...
Bitter and cynical?
Not from a man who would take the movies "Brother from Another Planet" and "Casablanca" to a desert island. Even your book reviews scream of a romantic (the love of well-written works).
I would believe that you are a frustrated romantic searching for his "true love". You examine the love relationship in quite a different way from our friend John. It appears to me (and ONLY on the writings of your voice cards and other contributions do I base this) that you are waiting for the relationship to grab you. If it is the "true love" you seek, all will be wonderful. If not, well, you did try to tell us that roses have thorns.
I will give you my personality profile: I am a basic flirt who coats it with romanticism one day and cynicism the next. It hasn't changed over the years and it probably developed in high school. Look for nothing of substance here!